You can't always see the pain someone feels

As many of you know by now, robin Williams a beloved actor and comedian passed at the age of 63. The shocking cause - suicide. 

Many are baffled by the cause of death. How could someone so successful and bright possibly intentionally kill themselves? It doesn't seem right or accurate.

The hard cold truth - depression does not discriminate. It never has and never will. The other truth is that most people with depression are able to hide their pain very well. They don't want to bring others down with them, they want to seem like they have it all together. 

We bottle the pain in day in and day out hoping it will magically disappear. The reality? There are only two ways to escape the pain asking for help and death. Sadly, to many people chose the 2nd option. Why? Well I have a theory. 

No body wants to admit their depressed or something is wrong with them. But when they do the often question we receive is "why?" " just snap out of it, your life isn't that bad, people have it way worse off than you do ." 

This may be accurate that our lives aren't all that bad, but for most people this feeling is out of their  control. The depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in their brain. Telling peole these things doesn't help, it often makes matters worse. They continue to stuff their feelings until they reach their breaking point, and often times by then it is too late. 

I can't count how many times I've heard this from people, well the people I let in. From the outside know one would have ever guessed I struggle with depression and suicudal thoughts on a daily basis. I wake up every morning throw on my plastered on smile and go about my day. While deep Down it's a struggle to even get out of bed. Know one knew I cut myself to feel relief. Know one knows I tried commiting  suicude 5 times. All because my life is seen as ok. Just because I'm not homeless or have cancer or am an orphan everything must be all dandy and fine. 

People don't realize until it's too late. Until they hear about that quiet girl in the back of the classroom that hung herself. Or the boy who cut too deep. Or the lady who took a whole bottle of klonopin. It leaves people shocked and full of questions and saying "I never would have guessed."

You cant always see or feel the pain someone is going through.

I suggest by this Tragedy people educate them selves on depression and mental illness. And because you don't struggle with it doesn't make you a better person. It gives you the chance to reach out and help. Sometimes all it takes is to know your not alone.